Being the New Kid on The Block

Starting a new career after 14+ years in another……in your late 30’s with a young child is hard! And as women we tend to put extra pressure on ourselves wearing many hats throughout the day. Yesterday was a test for me but I conquered my fears and am feeling pretty proud of myself.

If you have been following my posts for a while you will know that on top of my new job I am also a Life Coach – which I love as well! However It does come with extra pressures that I somewhat create for myself – I can’t have bad days, I should have the answers to my problems, If I share my bad days will I be seen as a fraud in the industry?

You know as well as I do that those negative thoughts are complete BS and so here is my story after a hard day on the job yesterday and how I made it through.

It was supposed to be my day off today but at the end of the day yesterday my boss called asking if I could submit an application. I had to wait for a coworker to structure a few things first but the day got busy and it didn’t get done. I decided no biggie I’ll head up there and take care of it in the morning and be out by 10am.

Long story short it got done by 12:30 I went to submit my side but realized a coworker had already taken care of it hours before…..

I was so mad! I had wasted my morning working hard to get something done and nobody reached out to me to let me know! I may or may not have had a mild tempter tantrum and vented to my wonderful coworker who got to hear some pretty colourful language which then turned into tears of pure frustration.

I wanted to speak up to my boss about how I felt but also did not want to come across as that dramatic woman that we are portrayed to be when working in a male dominated industry.

I started having a full on explosion of negative thoughts (Blockers 🚨)

  • They don’t think I’m good enough
  • They’re probably frustrated with me
  • I’m not respected yet
  • Were they talking about me behind my back before they decided to take over
  • What have I done wrong
  • I’m not suited for this industry

The list went on and my Field (Career) score plummeted from a high 7 to a low 2

I drove home feeling so defeated and wondering if quitting my job as a Financial Advisor that I knew so well had been a huge mistake. At least I knew this job like the back of my hand, people came to me to get things done. I cried a bit more on the drive home.

When I arrived home I was angry! I vented to my husband Steve, brushing off Abigail who just wanted to play with me and tell me about all of the exciting things she had done that morning. I couldn’t see past my moment I was having.

After I was done venting Steve, ever so kindly reminded me that I loved the job last night, I’m still learning a whole new industry and that I have the right to request communication and not be brushed aside (Family score skyrocketed to a 10) He was my valve at that moment and my accelerator 🚦 I am incredibly lucky to have a husband who listens and respects me. Somehow he always has the right words.

Feeling empowered, I sat down and wrote an email to my boss 😬
I firmly (but politely) explained how it had frustrated me that I wasn’t given the chance to learn and didn’t appreciate i wasn’t told that it had been taken care of when they knew I was also working on it. In a nutshell I’d appreciate communication and not to be brushed aside.

I hit send and immediately panicked
Blockers came back

  • OH God I’m going to get fired!
  • I probably sound like a dramatic woman causing issues
  • I’m being a drama queen
  • i’m going to be talked about between all the men
  • i’m that typical woman

My phone rang within minutes, it was my boss, I panicked and hit ignore. Took a deep breath and reminded myself I was not a “keyboard warrior” I am a strong working woman who deserves respect! I was prepared to have a talking to (and get fired) I hit redial. I was at a loss for words. He started off by acknowledging what I said in the email, Genuinely apologized to me, explained how it was an oversight on his end, told me I was doing a fantastic job, gave me kudos for speaking out, promised to communicate better and told me if I ever thought of quitting he would drag me back by my ankles 😅

Field score skyrocketed to a close 8
He actually listened to me! This has never happened in my career before! I had been heard right then an there. There was no typical corporate comment of “Thank you for bringing this to our attention” It was a true conversation with the owner of the company.

As women we sometimes feel we have to work harder, maybe quieter, be a mother a wife and whatever other titles we carry. Had it not been for Oola and the amazing women I have met through my journey, I might not have had the courage to speak up, my blockers would have won and my accelerators would have faded away.

I spoke up, I was respected and heard. I was able to confide in Steve, take control and move on to play with Abigail, get excited and organized for her first day of Kindergarten tomorrow 😭

It’s amazing how quickly the 7 Fs can affect each other!!!

If you’re looking to get your Oola Life on connect with me! You can find out more about this amazing program at http://www.kcessentials.net

Love you all and thank you for listening!

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