This is a tough question, I know, but as part of my continuing series on finding certainty in an uncertain world, I’ve got to ask:
During the recent shutdown, was your family supportive, loving . . . there for you? Did your marriage improve or decline? If the worst happened, would you be okay with where your family relationships are now?
If there’s one thing I’ve learned during my time as a Certified Oola Life Coach, it’s that “family” is either the bedrock of a calm and balanced life – or the source of drama, chaos and stress. It’s your choice.
If you need for things to improve, there are specifics you can work on. Here are a few to think about:
• If you’re not working on your marriage, you’re working on your divorce. Your spouse should come before everyone else (and everything), so carve out some quality time away from your job, the kids, and your other responsibilities.
• Healthy boundaries keep toxic behavior out of your inner circle. Your extended family shouldn’t be allowed to create drama for your spouse and kids (or , if you’re unmarried, your close siblings and parents). Set boundaries and be specific about the behavior you want. Inside your “inner circle,” be a role model for drama-free behavior, demonstrating what’s expected.
• Bring your family along with you on your journey of improvement. Hold a family meeting to discuss goals and determine how you can work together to achieve them. Celebrate wins as a family, too.
Did your family get through the crisis drama-free? What are some pleasant surprises you’ve discovered lately? Drop a comment below and share.
Of course, a solid and supportive family life is just part of the feeling of certainty that comes with the Oola lifestyle. And it’s something I help others achieve as an Oola Life Coach. If you want to transform your world into one of balance, abundance and certainty, I’m here to help.
Message me and we can jump on a call to chat about it. Or go here to check out the 10-Week Oola Coaching Program I deliver for clients who want more balance, less stress, and more happiness in their lives.
For now, drop a comment below and share a pleasant surprise (or two) you’ve discovered lately about family.